Reverts b1b4ba501f, 90c9801c56, a3c84f78ca, ..
I haven't really traced it (yet), but on some servers, I'm observing
`ansible-playbook ... --tags=start` completing very slowly, waiting
to stop services. I can't reproduce this on all Matrix servers I manage.
I suspect that either the systemd version is to blame or that some
specific service is not responding well to some `docker kill/rm` command.
`ExecStop` seems to work great in all cases and it's what we've been
using for a very long time, so I'm reverting to that.
Until now, we were leaving services "enabled"
(symlinks in /etc/systemd/system/multi-user.target.wants/).
We clean these up now. Broken symlinks may still exist in older
installations that enabled/disabled services. We're not taking care
to fix these up. It's just a cosmetic defect anyway.